I used to worry myself silly over tiny tiny stuff. And i struggled with this for a very long time.
I would be worried over whether we would meet our targets so much that I didn’t even put in the actual work towards meeting them. Another time i’d be so worried about whether a relationship would work that I forgot to ACTUALLY make it work. Another time I got so worried about whether I would make rent, and completely forgot that I had already paid 3 months rent in advance. Ha!
And I realized worrying only compounds situations, only makes you unsure of yourself, only creates a chain that leads to stress, and eventually depression. Depression kills.
And worry just invites stress.
As a famous steve jobs quote goes:
You can’t connect the dots looking forward you can only connect them looking backwards. So you have to trust that the dots will somehow connect in your future. You have to trust in something: your gut, destiny, life, karma, whatever. Because believing that the dots will connect down the road will give you the confidence to follow your heart, even when it leads you off the well worn path.
So what is the best way to stop worrying? Think long-time.
Look at your future self, speak to them even. Ask them, 2 years from now, will I even remember what i’m worrying about today?
Worrying about how you are going to meet your monthly targets? – Think how 2 months from now you will have or not met them, and life will not have stopped.
Worrying about whether that relationship will last? – Think 10, 20 years from now how you will be married to an amazing person, and it won’t matter whether it worked or not.
Worrying about whether you will make rent? – Think about how 3,4 years from now you will be living in a much much bigger house. That you own. And how you will hardly remember this day.
Stop worrying. Think long term.
Did this change how you handle worries? let me know in the comments.